1. Tell your child openly about your childhood Tell your child a story from your childhood - one that will make you vulnerable and show that you are not perfect. Many parents do not admit their mistakes, so the child gets the impression that adults always know everything. But let's be honest: this is far from the case.
2. Ask direct questions Instead of trying to direct the conversation in the right direction, try asking the child direct questions. They should leave room for interpretation. Ask, for example, "How's your best friend doing?", "What's your favorite music?", etc.
3. Involve the teenager in cooking, invite him to cook a joint dish. Don't forget to also ask him what he would like for dinner. The child will feel significant and involved in something common. Well, it's much easier to talk heart to heart while cooking.
4. Do not scold or criticize a teenager if he says or does something inappropriate. If he is upset or annoyed, just say something like: "My dear, you wash your face, calm down, and then we will talk to you about any topics. I will always support you."
5. Of course, you can say that everything will be fine, etc., but to feel anger, indignation is absolutely normal. A teenager may think that he is not being heard, and will begin to close.
6. Keep joint diaries Create a common notebook, write down all your questions there and let the teenager fill out the answers. This is a great way of communication when a child is embarrassed to talk about his problems out loud. Do you remember how we passed questionnaires to each other as children? It is much easier to pour out all your experiences on paper.
7. Be interested in their hobbies and take part in your teenager's favorite activities. This will help form a strong bond and start a conversation. If the child sees your interest, it will be easier for him to open up. He'll want to spend time with you.
8. Let them be an example Children have the same right to point out the mistakes of their parents. First of all, they will see you as a person, not a parent, and this will allow them to open up. For example, let your child help you choose an outfit or ask them to show you how to use the new app.