3 Things That Can Save You When You Don't Know What to Say

3 Things That Can Save You When You Don't Know What to Say

 

You are dating a beautiful but shy girl or one

that is not a talkie. You have already talked

about your hobbies, your families and your jobs

and nothing else comes into your mind, and she is

not helping you (that's what you believe).

 

One of the best ways of having a good, healthy

and wholesome chat with your girlfriend is to

start with small talk. The small word will give

you a general picture about her likes and

dislikes, as well as what she would like to

discuss and what she would instead leave alone.

Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you

can go ahead and discuss your common likes and

dislikes.

 

But what is freaking, you are that moment

of silence. Uhh... horrible moments. :) The key

to avoid or get over these awful moments are:

 

1. Compliment her

 

The fact is most people are shy about meeting new

people. I used to be enormously shy. But when you

think about it, shyness is merely a fear that

others won't like you or that you may be

rejected in some way. It's natural for us to

desire acceptance. So try to make her know that

you want her by making a compliment. But find

something that you find attractive about

her, about her lifestyle, or her personality.  She

will become more confident and open to sharing

her believes, and her shyness won't be a problem

for a fluid conversation.

 

2. Asking open questions

 

How you ask questions is very important in

establishing a basis for effective

communication. Practical questions open the door

to knowledge and understanding. The art of

questioning lies in knowing which questions to

ask when.

 

My favorite questions are "why" and "how."

questions. You can use these frequently without

being annoying. She will feel that you are

interested in what she is telling you and will

develop her answers.

 

Therefore, you should think carefully before

speaking and taking up subjects that might be

repugnant to her.

 

3. Listen, listen, and listen.

 

Usually, when the woman starts talking about her

favorite subjects (feelings, family,

relationships, friends, and her work) many men

lose interest or bring the conversation back to

themselves. This is one of the biggest mistakes

men are doing it all the time.

 

They also like to exchange jokes and anecdotes

and spend a fair amount of time playing one-up

and boasting. Stop doing that!!!

 

Allow HER to have HER points of view while you

have yours. Men have felt like they have either

had to abandon their own beliefs to get a woman, OR they had to fight with women

about what they believe in. Both approaches lead

to failure.

 

She is not there with you to hear about your

hero "qualities," but to have a great time!