4 steps to help heal a broken heart

Heartbreak is a pain like any other pain. It is such an unfounded emotional pain that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have pain like this, all you want is for the deep pain to go away. As much as I'd like to give advice differently, there is no first aid kit for a broken heart. Although this sounds cliched, time is the therapy needed for you to truly heal from such deep, excruciating pain. Over time, this pain will go away. Now and then, following a few basic tips may be able to make a difference in how you feel.

1. Crying: You will feel like rubbish for the first few weeks. Depending on how emotional you are, you may feel like crying for days. Help yourself. A significant change has occurred in your life; Painful change. There is no way to expect that you will feel a little sad and be able to turn it off with a switch. It's not that simple. Allow yourself to grieve for your loss. But not for long! Staying in the past for too long can only hurt you. See rule number 4.

2. Talk to someone nearby: Use the shoulder of someone who cares about you to get your feelings out. This is a way to cleanse your soul by letting someone share your pain. Let them listen, comfort you, and give advice. You don't necessarily have to take this advice, but sharing this comfort can make you feel better. Make sure that you only allow yourself to be sad and dependent on someone for a while because you need to move on.

3. Distract yourself: Bring back the friends you care about in your life. Perhaps the existence of the relationship prevents you from spending time with your parents or siblings. You may not have spoken to your best friend in weeks. Surround yourself with this support network. Getting things done at home is a great way to get lost on a project. Go to the gym. Organize your closet. Get out and walk. Getting distracted is a great starting point for moving forward in your life. This brings us to rule number 4.

4. Looking to the future. Forget the Past: Once you allow yourself to indulge in grieving for a part of your life that is now gone, look ahead! There is a definite need to be able to start a new chapter in your life book. Now that you are past the sadness and anger, it is time for hope and renewal that will help you move forward. Take some time for yourself. Get to know yourself as a single individual rather than as a part of a couple. Renew your soul by becoming you again.

By following these sometimes difficult, but necessary, steps, you can begin to heal the broken parts of your heart. Not only can you become whole again, but you can also become whatever you want to become. This is a chance to start over, and once the pain starts to subside, you'll see it's an opportunity.