1. Parental authority
If your opinion is treated with distrust in the conversation - to increase the authority of the stated idea, you can add that this idea is passed on to you by a parent.
People in general tend to trust parental advice, because subconsciously almost all of us live in the belief that parents always want only the best for us. Coupled with the concept of "parental wisdom," this method works almost without fail. So you'll quickly be able to get the person to agree with what you say.
2. One word repetition
Pick out a word from your conversation partner and every time he/she says it (or any other word with a similar meaning) try to smile, nod or use any other affirmative gesture. Surprisingly, your interlocutor will increasingly use the word to which you are paying attention.
3. total indifference.
A lifehack for those who always like to know more than they're being told. If a person shares with you some facts or narrative about a situation of interest to you, try to put on your face a mask of total indifference to the information of the interlocutor.
Most often in such a situation, people unconsciously try by any means to convince the person that the information really matters to them. This is what makes them lay out the facts, which previously they did not intend to retell.
It is inherent in human psyche: if you are not believed, or your information for some reason was not interesting, you will try by all means to prove you are right, using all the available stock of knowledge - circumstances, facts, people, etc.
4. the illusion of freedom of choice
This is an old trick, but it would still be sacrilegious to ignore it. The trick is that instead of forcing or simply stating a fact, you give your interlocutor the right to choose. An illusory right of choice, of course, but he is unlikely to think about it.
For example, if you want your girlfriend to cook you dinner, ask her when she's going to start doing it-right now or in a couple of hours. That way you'll put her in front of a choice, even though the choice has already been made.
This is a trick often used by waiters in restaurants. As they approach the table, they ask what kind of wine you will order - white or red. You begin to choose from the options, although initially you could have planned to order something completely different.
5. Broadcasting self-confidence
If you've decided to create an image of a confident person, you need to be able to properly broadcast it not only through your appearance and your behavior, but also through your speech.
When talking to a person, try not to use expressions like "I think", "I think", "I would do so...", "So to speak" and anything close to them. Filling your speech in this way will only present you in a negative light. These expressions emphasize your insecurity (if you have one, and if you don't, your ability to include weed words in your speech). When your interlocutor hears the above words, they take what you say to them lightly.
Learn to speak with confidence and use as few introductory words with shades of doubt in your dialogue as possible.
6. Doubt of competence
Shaking a man's confidence in his words can be difficult. The ideal way to achieve this goal is to express doubt about the competence of the interlocutor. This can cause him to doubt himself and what he is saying, and proving a point to an insecure person is easier than ever.
For example, if the dispute is over the economy, ask your interlocutor some sudden question on a related topic. Most likely, he will not be able to quickly orient himself and formulate a clear answer. After that he will be careful what he says, because his confidence in his knowledge will be shaken.
By the way, if you happen to catch someone of your acquaintances in a similar manipulation against yourself - know how to stand up with dignity. Just don't doubt your knowledge and abilities, and stick to your opinion. Unless, of course, it really is based on facts.
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