Attracting A Romantic Partner; Six Clues

Will She find me suitable? Is there a chance that He will be interested in me? Do we have common interests? How do I win him/her over? If this is you asking, then you need to know about the psychology  of attraction. This is important since getting to find and impress a matching romantic partner has never been an easy affair. So how do you know for sure how to attract that potential suiter, that romantic partner. 

 

According to research on psychology of attraction, as opposed to one typology, their are several aspects behind this elusive spark. This is because attraction is not gorvened by a single model. Social psychology experts say that attraction is a force that pulls people together.  To shade light on this subject, this article highlights the different forms of attractions, as well as general tips for understanding the psychology of attraction, especially the elusive 'Romantic Attraction'.

 

To start with, the different types of attractions includes the following:-

 

• Romantic Attraction 

 

This is attraction elicited by feelings of wanting a relationship with a partner of the opposite sex. On a superficial level, this kind of attraction is known as sexualattraction and it's characterized by physical cues alone. Here, there is desire to engage in intimacy.

 

• Physical or Sensual Attraction

 

This is a kind of attraction that is guided by the desire for physical proximity, and emotional touch like hugging.

 

• Aesthetic Attraction

 

This attraction is directed by an interest in one's physical appearance. This is not necessarily a sexual attraction.

 

• Intellectual Attraction

 

This is attraction which is guided by an interest in one's mind or thoughts.

 

• Emotional Attraction

 

This arises from emotions of connection and attachment with someone/partner. It could be anyone, brother, sister, friend, spouse etc. 

More so, this article chooses to focus on the most elusive type of attraction, which is the 'Romantic' attraction'.

 

What is Romantic Attraction?

This is a kind of attraction characterized by huge sense of adoration, infatuation and fondness with the other person. Here, You are on the same page, and with emotional support. Here, You are willing to stay with them for the rest of your life. At some level, it could also include sexual interaction in which case it is dictated by the desire to engage in intimate acts with a person and can sometimes be influenced by physical cues alone. On a deeper level, this attraction is spurred by strong feelings of wanting to be in a relationship with someone. Romantic attraction is the kind of attraction that could lead to deep affectionate relationship, and even marriage.

 

Psychology of Romantic Attraction.

 

With numerous variations, the psychology of romantic attraction is quite critical if you want all the clues you can get when you're going out to meet a stranger. Here are some characteristics of the psychology of romantic attraction.

 

1.Colour Your First Impression 

 

This applies to both men and women. In a related research, a 2010 study found that participants who wore colour red when chatting with the opposite sex were deemed to be more attractive. According to these findings, the men asked the crimson-wearing women more intimate questions than those wearing other colors like orange, yellow or green, and wanted to sit closer to them. This is also true in the case where men wear the colour red.

 

Regardless of how you feel about colour red, studies have shown that both men and women are perceived as more attractive and more sexual when they are wearing red or another color that’s both bright and warm. While this may promote just physical attraction, studies indicate that red promotes strong sexual attraction between individuals. This attractive phenomenon is attributed to colour red since it is a primal colour that's associated with health and fertility.

 

2. Let Your Body Speak 

 

Body language is paramount in the psychology of attraction. According to a 2011 experiment, it was found that using smaller gestures, talking slowly, and leaning backward are nonthreatening cues that allow your date to feel more comfortable. Here, it is vital to watch as they loosen up and then feel free to get more animated. Such a balance between nonverbal cues is deemed attractive since it honors your personal space and showcases your unique personality. Women tend to do these intuitively than men. Here, smiling and eye contact can increase activity in the area of the brain linked with reward. According to research, although the regularity of sustained eye contact varies across cultures, eye contact and smiling can make you seem more attractive to others.

 

3. Active Your PersonalityStrength 

 

A Person's charm is much more than skin deep. Here, there are a lot of different ways we can try to be more attractive to others. "Primarily, most people are first influenced by someone’s physical attractiveness, and then become more or less attracted to someone over time depending on other factors, such as similarity, personality match, and reciprocal interest," says Dr Fugère. This means that if a person was seen as physically attractive or otherwise, this can change as their interests, personality type, sense of humor, and other shared qualities become revealed with time.

4. How Do You Sound 

 

According to a study conducted by Canada’s McMaster University, the tone of a woman’s voice increases a bit when she’s interested. Even more interesting is the fact that exactly how high a woman’s voice goes varies at different times. For example, her elevated chords occur during her most fertile time, which is around ovulation. Studies indicate that Men prefer these higher pitched voices. They agree that this voice is the most attractive of all. 

 

5. Your Scent Matters

 

Does smells play a big role in the psychology of attraction? Yes it does. According to a recent study published by the Social Issues Research Center, it was found that women are attracted to androstenol, a natural chemical found in fresh male sweat. However, while androstenol acts as a pheromone, the scent of androstenone, which is produced when there is too much sweat, acts as a natural turn off. On the other hand, Men may be attracted to the smell of a particular perfume, but turned off by the smell of tears. Moreover, a 2011 Science magazine article found that when men sniffed tears, they felt a decrease in sexual arousal, whereas there was no change when they sniffed a neutral saline solution. 

 

6. Mindfulness is key

 

You've perhaps been told that retaining a bit of mystery at the beginning of a relationship is brilliant. Well, this is true.  Practicing mindfulness can improve your attractiveness. According to a 2015 study, women thought that men were more attractive when they were actively involved in the conversation rather than behaving aloof.