Manipulative Ex-Boyfriend
June 2020
Our craziest argument went like this:
On Valentine’s Day February 14, 2020. We decided to have dinner at our favorite restaurant at the nautical mile. The restaurant was lavishly decorated and combined with lowlights, fresh flowers, and candlelight along with classical music playing in the background.
It was very romantic.
It was an enchanted night as I remember I wore a Sweet Lace-up mini red dress with black wedges to match with his red and black check shirt but since it was a chilly night I took my leather jacket along. It was a nice Valentine’s dinner well spent together. As this was the last happy time for our relationship.
The next day we made plans to go to his home to hang out like we usually do every Saturday.
I had woken up. I looked at my clock. It was 11:00 am. “Oh great !” I thought to myself I felt a sense of sickness. I guess maybe I drank too much last night.
He picked me up. When We reached his home and he opened the front door. I can immediately smell the scent of hookah as we step inside when I look across the living room I saw a girl whose hair was blonde shoulder length and was wearing blue shorts with a white crop top. she was sitting in the living room on the black sofa, Smoking hookah. There was foggy smoke across the living room since all the windows were closed. I think to myself who could this be? I have never seen her before. I was nervous as the palm of my hand were sweating. I began to overthink.
The unfamiliar girl turned and look at my boyfriend as she noticed us walk in.
“Hello,” she said As she looks at my boyfriend and smiled.
“Hey, Elsy How are you ?”He said.
I can feel my blood boiling up as I look at him with so many questions In my mind I felt weird because the girl only looked at him she didn’t even say hello to me. Me and him we both walked towards his room
“Who is this girl,” I asked, waiting for an explanation from him.
“That's Elsy My brother’s girlfriend,” he said.
“how come I never saw her before? ”
“oh she comes and goes, they always break up and then get back together,”
“you never told me he had a girlfriend and neither has he mentioned it to me and we talk sometimes,” I said.
“Well, that's strange,”
“It’s fine that's his business,”
At this moment I stared at the blue wall inside his bedroom and tried to remember what it felt like when he used to give reassurance. In the past, he would have explained a situation like this.
I switched on the tv and we were about to watch the show ‘walking dead’. Elsy Swung opened the door.
“Can you come to help me with the hookah burner?” she said.
“Elsy go I am coming,” he said.
“I am waiting for you. Hurry!” she said
I looked at my boyfriend as he walked out the room door. This couldn’t be what I was seeing. I almost stopped him. But why bother, he's still going to go anyway. I didn’t want to cause any arguments so I avoided anything which would lead to an argument with him.
Later in the evening, he dropped me home, and like I always do I call him 15 minutes after. His phone kept on ringing and ringing. He wouldn't pick up my call I tried calling him several times still no answer message then came in.
“Can I call you later,”
I think to myself how can he respond to this but he cannot pick up my call. so I called him again He picked up this time with loud music in the background and girls laughing.
“Hello, Are you serious,” I said. “I called you so many times .”
“Sorry, Elsy took my phone away.”
“Are you F*CKING kidding me? “Who is she to take your phone away ”
“I will call you back,” he said and hung up the call.
I called him again and he didn't pick up. I tried calling him several times he never picked up. so many thoughts were going through my head “ what could he possibly doing”
hours after at 12:30 am he called me.
“Hello,” he said.
“what? I said. What do you want now”
“sorry my brother’s girlfriend and her friends are over here”
“ Do you wanna come?”
“Are you dumb are you even in your sense right now,”
“you ignored me for so many hours and now you act like everything is ok.”
“sorry diana but Elsy took the phone away and said I need to hang out with them.”
I heard in the background Elsy saying to him.
“I thought you didn’t have a girlfriend,” she said. Who are you talking to?” “ let me see,”
“Stop it Elsy .you are drunk,” he said.
“Diana, I will call you back. those people are drunk and throwing up”
“what do you mean you will call me back ?”
“you know what just enjoy your party and do whatever you want I don't care anymore,”
We went back and forth for an hour. I kept on asking him what was so important why couldn’t he pick up the phone. And he kept saying Elsy took his phone so he couldn't answer it because she was drunk and upset.
“I got fed up. It keeps on getting worse since this girl Elsy came around. Our relationship had gone to the ground. My boyfriend changed so much it was like everything was different from how it used to be It just so happened that my Boyfriend started hanging out with his brother’s girlfriend and her friends and started accompanying them to the club.
He started making excuses and continued with the attitude of ignoring my calls. This continued for over 1 month until one day I left his call unanswered. It appears as if it was a shock to him because I don't normally leave his calls unanswered.
I waited after a few hours to return his call because I wanted him to feel I was feeling when he ignores my calls. I returned his call after a few hours.
“Hello,” he said. Where are you?”
“Home where else could I be ?” I said.
“Stop Lying, who are you with?”
“I Laughed, are you crazy? I am home”
“you were with someone right ?”
“NO, I have been home all day. can't you hear mom voice in the background?”
He ended the call. I called him a few times. He ignored my call and then decided to block my number. I tried to reach him on Whatsapp and Snapchat. He won't respond to any of my messages. Days went by without any communication between us. I became sad and depressed thinking to myself what went wrong? What did I do to deserve this? But I know to myself I did nothing wrong by just ignoring his call once he thinks of me like I have cheated or done something wrong. I contacted his brother to ask him to unblock me. His brother told me
“It was his choice to do that I cannot force him.”
I begged and cried to his brother about my feelings. Why would he do this to me without a good reason? it has been weeks I still waited for him to unblock me
One Month after
I called his brother to find out how he was doing. His brother told me he was fine. But he doesn't look so happy. I thought to myself why isn’t he happy although he blocked me.
His brother mentions that he will unblock me he just doesn't know when. I realize that I was getting more and more depressed as days went by. It's almost close to 2 months. I couldn’t be 100% sure he was coming back. Although I wanted to wait. I was two-minded. And when he did unblock me 2 months after I had broken up with him and changed my number.
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