It's easy to spot a vice in a relative, friend, colleague, or even a casual acquaintance - all it takes is simple observation.
A person is definitely greedy if you notice that he corresponds to at least three descriptions from the list:
Is aloof from the general mass of people, stingy with emotions and words, often constrained and limited in movement.
He takes part in joint activities with pleasure only when he does not have to pay for them. In all other circumstances, seek to "merge.
Arrogant and arrogant. The typical greedy person considers himself/herself above others in the social rank, because he/she is more thoughtful, has a financial safety net which he/she doesn't spend in vain, unlike other "wasters", in his/her opinion.
Overly pedantic. In most cases, greedy people always have everything in its place and rarely have it out of place. A perfect order in this case is again dictated by a morbid phobia of losing something important of material possessions.
Very upset if someone managed to get something on more favorable terms than he, whether it is a consumer goods or more respectable thing like a high position or an expensive car.
Cold even in relationships with their loved ones. Greedy is very difficult to form connections, attach to the opposite sex and just to show participation. These people often quarrel because they make excessive (sometimes exorbitant) demands not only for themselves but also for family and friends.
How can this knowledge help?
Knowing that greed is a relevant problem is important and necessary in any relationship, both with others and yourself.
Identifying the characteristic flaw in the close environment will help to filter contacts and communication, establishing them in such a way as to communicate less with a greedy person. After all, borrowing money from a miser, for example, or asking him to buy something with subsequent return of the amount on the spot - an undertaking known to be doomed to failure.
But the knowledge of greed, of course, can be of greater help in the aspect of the bearer of the unpleasant vice because of a whole set of reasons:
First, inner emptiness and greed are two parts of a whole.
If one is stingy, it manifests itself not only through thoughtless consumption of goods and things or putting money aside, but also through an inner inability to give and show one's feelings toward the outside world.
"Giving love is pathetic" is the unconscious thought that goes round and round in the mind of any greedy person, regardless of his or her gender, age, or occupation.
Secondly, greed enmeshes a person, depriving him of freedom and life satisfaction. A miser can almost never be happy, because he is constantly worried, panic-stricken by the fear of losing everything he has gained.
Differences between avarice and trespassing
Sometimes through ostentatious greed, a person merely activates a certain mechanism of self-protection of the boundaries of the personal self. If we talk about boundaries from the psychological side, it is the awareness of where "I" ends and "others" begin.
Example: a person is a happy owner of an apartment in the capital, and a friend comes from another city to live with him for a short while. But as a result, the cohabitation drags on: the capital resident asks to move out, but in response receives accusations of greed and resentment.
Is this the right thing to do? Certainly not. Can a person who makes a logical request be called greedy? Again, no, because he is merely defending his property, asserting the right to personal space.
Protecting personal boundaries is not greed, but a manifestation of self-respect. Everyone has the right not to share things if they feel squeamish or not to lend money, knowing full well that they are dealing with an irresponsible person. A person who is not driven by greed will certainly explain the motivation for his or her behavior and demonstrate objective reasons for not wanting to share something.
Conclusion
Thus, the causes and signs of greed can be different. The main thing is to be able to find the strength to change for the better, to direct the loved one to the right path, and if it is impossible - just stay away from the one who is unable to love and give.
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