Alas, none of us is born with a manual on how we are made and how to live this life happily. We make mistake after mistake, and that's normal. But learning about the brain can help you figure things out faster and even change your life for the better.
1. OUR BRAINS CAN BE "REPROGRAMMED," ALLOWING US TO THINK AND ACT DIFFERENTLY
And it's not about surgery, it's about controlling your thoughts. After all, they largely affect the way we behave and how we eventually resolve certain situations, says Dr. Conor Hogan, neuro- and social psychologist and co-author of books on mental health.
We are able to create new neural connections in the brain ourselves in order to:
Start thinking more positively,
control events that used to have complete power over us,
to accept reality as it is.
And through all of this, to form new, healthier habits, which in turn also improves our quality of life. But how do we choose our thoughts? We'll talk about that in the next paragraph.
2. WHAT WE THINK ABOUT JUST BEFORE WE GO TO SLEEP AFFECTS OUR DREAMS AND THE UNCONSCIOUS
What we see in our dreams often resonates deeply with how we feel about events in different areas of our lives. And the good news is that we can consciously choose what we think about before we go to sleep. This will directly affect our unconscious.
A neuropsychologist recommends treating these nighttime thoughts as products that we "feed" our brains. And it's up to us to decide if they are healthy and wholesome or not. Fresh vegetables or fast food? Coke and alcohol or pure water and herbal tea? This evening "menu" definitely should not include regrets, reflections on the failures that befall us, and limiting attitudes.
3. PEOPLE STAY IN OUR LIVES SIMPLY BECAUSE WE KEEP THEM THERE
You may object, but what about family? What about the people you love? We don't choose them! Yes and no. Living under the same roof or having a family does not mean you have to put up with negative comments or do only what the other person wants.
We are adults and are responsible for our own actions and choices. We are capable of distinguishing the bad from the good and understanding what and how is best for us.
So think about whether you should communicate with people who do not support you, who do not help you to achieve the goals you are striving for, who criticize you and devalue your achievements. Even if they are relatives or friends "from diapers.
4. THOSE AROUND US TRUST US MORE IF WE SHOW THEM OUR WEAKNESSES
Our mistakes and vulnerabilities make us more alive and human. Of course, when we see a doctor or other professional, we want above all to see a professional who can provide us with quality care. And yet, to truly open up to another person, we need to understand that he or she is a flesh and blood human being just like us.
That's why it's so important that the professional is not afraid to be himself or herself and to be honest with his or her clients. Try to remember this the next time you make a mistake and are going to scold yourself for it. Get rid of excessive self-criticism and negative thoughts - they have never helped anyone.