As life practice shows, trying out a relationship rarely ends in anything serious. The main reasons for leaving love euphoria include the following factors:
A long separation. There are rare cases where the voiced factor only strengthens the feeling. However, this is more of a beautiful fairy tale than reality. Only those relationships where the couple has lived together for quite a long time and have children will not ruin the separation.
Insight. Pink glasses can prevent you from seeing the true nature of the object of first love. Putting another person on a pedestal, you can bitterly regret it later. Over time, emotions tend to blunt, which allows us to consider the ideal more carefully. In addition, some of the deeds of the chosen one after a certain period of time will manifest themselves, bringing in most cases, followed by disappointment.
The end of romance. The first phase of the relationship is a wonderful time that cannot last forever. It is this period that fuels the love that has arisen, making it a colorful and unforgettable event. Then comes the gray of everyday life, which can kill the passion and attraction. Exceptionally deep feelings can withstand such a test, but the first relationship is usually still immature and vulnerable.
Frequent conflicts. The described phenomenon can happen at any age, but most often it happens in the period of youth. Consequently, young people have no experience in relationships with the opposite sex. As a result, in the absence of the ability to compromise, the couple is constantly scandalized, destroying the first love that has arisen.
Treason. Betrayal in this case can be both moral and physical. Rarely do people forgive such things, and the couple breaks up. In the case of forgiveness of a transgression, the former relationship and trust will definitely no longer exist.
Different views on life. Especially at a young age, this factor can alienate partners from each other. The reason for this is that mature people in the emergence of love know how to adjust to each other. The younger generation is often intolerant of their conclusions and can be disappointed in the object of passion because of the different hobbies.
Excessive psychological pressure. In the first place in this case, it is best to put such a phenomenon as a sense of possessiveness and excessive jealousy. This is especially true for guys and girls who are most susceptible to such negative outbursts of emotion. Not trusting their first partner, they are ready to set up a real surveillance. Rare people will appreciate such increased care, which will negate even the most ardent feeling.
Undivided first love. Our emotions do not always find a counter response from the person we like. Often, the attempt to build a relationship with the opposite sex ends in defeat, because the object attracted does not accept courting. Forced is not nice, so waste effort on the conquest of an impregnable fortress is not worth it.
The consequences of the first love failure
Any process has its own outcome, which are not always positive. Very often an unhappy first love provokes the following deplorable consequences:
A new relationship out of revenge. Fight fire with fire is a wonderful expression, but not in this case. The victim of collapsed illusions may consider such actions the ideal way out of the situation. Some guys and girls are even ready to marry the first person they meet in order to spite the first person they love. As a result, the offender will live happily, but the new family or couple is likely to disintegrate after a while.
Disappointment in the concept of "love. Such an extreme very often catches up with people who have been betrayed by the object of their tender feelings. Such a denouement also awaits those who have not received reciprocal feelings from the loved one. All this can lead to the formation of complexes and the denial of love altogether.
Multiple sexual relations. The time of youth - a time of trial and error. Young people are learning to build a relationship with the opposite sex, but everything should be within reason. In some cases, after the first unsuccessful experience in love, guys and girls start to change their partners regularly. Someone does it out of desperation, and someone simply elementary sexual promiscuity and does not know the basics of sexual culture.
Fear of new relationships. Once stepped on a rake, not everyone dares to repeat this heroic act. Disappointment in the first love can bring real emotional pain to the injured party. Consequently, she will be afraid to repeat the resulting bitter experience.
Living with past relationships. Lingering on the problem leads to just such a negative result. A mechanism for projecting the past onto the present is activated, which does not lead in the end to anything good.
Depression. Unnecessary memories can develop a mental pathology. A person who has failed in their first love is capable of losing interest in the world around them.
Suicide attempt. This paradoxical method of solving an arisen problem can be both demonstrative and conscious. In this case, you should already talk about the help of a professional, because such an act is a clear deviation from the norm.
First love is a test of feelings and emotions, which must be withstood with dignity. Life is too good and full of pleasant new acquaintances to give up on your personal happiness.
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