The expert tells us that laziness doesn't exist. But how?! What about lounging on the couch and eating yummy treats to a soap opera instead of doing a report? And what will happen to my favorite game on the console if I sit down to prepare a shooting concept? These and many other questions arise in our brains all by themselves, we don't even hear them, but we let our gray matter run wild and live by the principle of "doing what's easier."
So what is it about laziness?
Laziness is a contrived and non-existent phenomenon. Our brain artificially creates this condition because it doesn't want to make life difficult for itself.
But how does it do that?
It's very simple: the norms and order upon which our lives are built help our brain to regress. Let me elaborate. When we are born, we immediately find ourselves in a situation where our parents forcibly try to create a schedule for us: feeding, sleeping, toileting. Of course, it's not easy for them, but they try hard.
As we get a little older, schedules begin to affect our lives more and more. If as babies we could break schedules - wake up at 1 a.m. and ask for food, go to the bathroom when we feel like it, sleep for 2 hours instead of 5, etc., the older we get, the less we have that option. We go to kindergarten, where we eat, sleep and play according to a schedule; we go to school, where we study, rest, eat and even go to the bathroom according to the schedule for 11 years (and various study groups and circles!); we go to college, where we get a "schedule" for the rest of our lives; we go to work, where it is also decided for us - when and how much we will work, when and how long we will rest.
In addition to the fact that we ourselves live through this cycle, even as children we witness how our parents live in such a regime, and our brain takes it for granted: why try, they will decide everything for me. On the basis of this knowledge, it builds our further perception of reality.
So, living on a schedule does not allow the brain to form the neural connections responsible for responsibility and independent disposition of our time/schedule.
In places where everything has already been decided for us, like work, it's harder for us to go into a state of laziness compared to freelancing or home-office. We have to push ourselves over the edge and sit and do our work. But this does nothing to form new neural connections, because it's a schedule: it's monotonous and repeated day after day, we can't influence it. Over time we don't even notice that we live according to a schedule, and we take the "home + TV + couch" combo as a well-deserved rest for a hard-earned eight hours.
What's wrong with home-office?
Home-office is for strong-minded and self-organized people. In fact, they are not as few as it seems.
Forced remote work has shown that working outside the schedule can be much more fruitful, because often human biorhythms do not coincide with the work schedule. And this way, working from home, he is free to manage his time - just as long as the work gets done.
But at the same time it is a challenge to work remotely: the couch beckons to lie on it, social networks are begging to come in for at least 5 seconds, and the game with the cat cannot be postponed even for a minute! By accustoming ourselves to organizing our own time, we create new neural connections and it becomes easier each time we subdivide work and rest. The brain is no longer afraid of these difficulties, but at the same time it knows that it alone is responsible for getting the work done and no one else will decide it for it. This is how we learn autonomy and self-organization.
And why do some people know how to organize themselves from childhood?
Because they have had those life circumstances. For example, mom and dad are at work from morning until late at night. The child has to take care of breakfast by himself, get to school on his own, go to a club, have lunch, come home, do his homework. Even though part of his life is "on a schedule," there are times that he needs to think about and supervise himself in order to adjust to that schedule. This is how responsibility and autonomy are formed in him.
That is why I advocate that from an early age children be given the opportunity to make choices, to organize themselves, to learn to entertain themselves. If you teach your child that everything will be decided for him, he will grow up and also expect someone to give him a schedule to live by. And if you define the things he needs to do and then give him freedom of action with the condition that all tasks must be completed, he will quickly learn to be independent and in the future he won't have any problems with it.
Do you know how to work from home or is it hard to do?