In family life that means in marital life there are three stages. First stage we can call Honey moon stage. The second stage is struggling period and the third stage we can call flowing period. Every One know the most beautiful things have only shortest life in earth. It will complete or enjoy very fastly. The thing is that all are like to live in that fantasy world..
But unfortunately we can describe the Honey moon period as like fantasy world. The honey moon stage have only short period. In that stage each person love each other very deeply. One person always try to influence other person there is no compelling, ordering each other competing to sacrifice for making smile on his or her face. We can see all are trying to show the best part of their character, no shouting, no bargaining only love, happiness , sacrifices, sharing . It's a wonderful part of every one marital life, each one faces we can see happiness and curiosity to know each other.
But When they move in to second stage of their life that is struggling period gradually realize honey moon period is not a real life. The struggling period, This is the stage where small small issues, problems, complex such a things happens between the life of each other. In this period person can understand the worst and best portion of his or her partner's character. There become lot of changes between from the honeymoon part to struggling period. Here we can understand our partner shows small small changes in his or her attitude. This is the time they started to reacted in the way of shouting not only big issues but also for small matters. Struggling period will give a big platform to realize what is life and how it was too difficult to over come. If they are fails to handle their issues properly it leads to separation that means Divorce.
In this time I just think about the words of Minibus Mazari the Iron Lady of Pakistan. Once she said in her speech " The problems are not too big but we are too small". Yes, why not the husband and wife realize this is the period and this is the situation in life we want to stay more lovely. It is the time want to each other share their problems . The life like a two side of coin it was a mix of both happiness and sadness. But the couples when moved in to the stage of struggle they couldn't try to understand what are the situation and what are the wrong things happen around their life. The Husband and wife not only in their better life but also in worst period of life want to give support and love each other. No one understand this is the time they get for understand each other very deeply.
Once again we can move back to the honey moon period. Why this period become this much beautiful and why it covered with too much love nothing but it is only friendship. Actually in that period the couples live like as best friends. Friendship is one of the best feeling, carrying and consideration giving from one person to another. Just think why don't husband and wife accept each other like best friends? We can see in true friendship we are ready to share anything to our friends, there may be sad things, good things, bad things etc.. So why don't we ready to share these things with our partner as like a best friend. The love is just a pond but friendship is a river. My merging these love pond and friendship river we can make a sea with full of joy happiness love etc.
So when we create a deep friendly relation with each other the couples life go throughout the life like a honeymoon period. Yes It's a life so problems are common factor we should understand there is no end for problems but we should decide these problems over come with our love and support. That's why we can smoothly move our theird stage of flowing part. Here we become very strong by over coming all the problems in the struggling period not alone but with our lovely partner.. God bless you.
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