A good person is not at all synonymous with a good person, and it doesn't matter what you personally mean by "good. It's just that uncontrolled goodness is inadequate, and it can really bring a whole lot of evil. The road to hell is paved with good deeds.
1. Too kind = too deceitful
Too much goodness is a barrier to the truth, and therefore a good person is not necessarily a good person. After all, a liar can hardly be considered a worthy example. Of course, some people are just naturally that way; they are soft and would rather avoid even the prospect of conflict, direct and perhaps necessary truth. There is such a thing as a lie of salvation. You know, lie to save the relationship, not to upset the parents, not to get in the dirt. In the end, the lie is always exposed, often requiring a return of the advance payment taken from the truth. The situation here is the same: lying in the name of the good, in order to avoid conflict will be perceived by others unequivocally, without any reservations or added meanings. This is what it is.
A person who is naturally good risks falling victim to a corrupt society. At first, such kindness is pure and naive, but gradually it becomes accentuated. Its owner is given the status of an unconditionally good person, and he is aware of this special attitude to his person. Next comes the abuse, because "I" am so good and nice, only for this "I" already owe. What? To accept all the bullshit, to put up with whining about the injustice, to agree and support? No, you don't have to, your way is your choice, binding no one to anything. After the realization of non-reciprocity, kindness becomes fake, and then it is replaced by simple spinelessness.
This does not always happen to everyone, but many "good doers" have long been prepared for their special cauldrons on special fires.
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Your kindness will be perceived as weakness.
Okay, let's get away from moral and philosophical issues. Excessive kindness may well have a negative impact in everyday life, especially in our parts of the world. I mean Russia and the CIS. Here, you know, it is often mistaken for weakness. And what else can you expect, if the presence of intelligence is considered a vice among the people. "What, are you smart?" - this phrase is uttered with both menace and contempt at the same time. If you're smart and kind and you can't hide it, you're dead, you're not living in Europe, don't relax.
A simple example: if you need something from any government agency or organization, boorish behavior is five times more effective. Of course, your emphatically polite behavior may be noticed and appreciated, saying, what a great guy you are. But first they will solve the problems of the rude person who yells at everyone, demanding immediate attention, thinking that everyone owes him. You're just kind, gentle and safe, and can wait, walk around the offices, to collect some papers, and the wild screamer is easier to quickly satisfy, to get out. That's the logic.
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3. Kindness makes inadequate.
People steeped in kindness, often perceive the world quite inadequately. They usually harm themselves, but sometimes even those around them. They have a distorted picture of reality, they have forgotten, poor souls, the saying "don't judge people by themselves". It usually applies to negative qualities, but it is also true for such a concept as "good". Simply put, the world is far from nice, and it is unlikely to show that quality toward you. Thus, the expectations of the do-gooder are not met, he finds himself unprepared to meet reality, from which he suffers.
Okay, if this happens in private, you can sympathize, maybe help with something. But it's much worse if such an inadequate do-gooder gives out advice to everyone. It is a truly tragic picture. On the one hand, the person sincerely believes that he gives good advice, spreading goodness. On the other hand, in fact he only sows inadequacy. His advice may not only fail, but also lead to unfortunate results.
4. Kindness increases evil.
So it turns out that too kind people do harm, they are like conductors of evil. They are unable to strongly oppose it, naming it by name, giving a clear definition. Seeing indecision and powerlessness, evil gets faith in its possibilities and impunity. In the case of the ordinary "little" person, an equally ordinary and small evil is reinforced. Somewhere you decide to call outright insolence a complex character, saying, this is the kind of person, you have to understand. And it will feed, a little stronger and turn into an asshole. On his way to meet a kindly little higher status and will turn insidious meanness. Then the whole thing will end up in some City Council or even the State Duma. Only because there was no goody-goody on the way, which would have stopped, nipped the evil in the bud.
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