You can influence someone by observing them in the distance and then know their likes and dislikes. Do you know someone who doesn't like crude language? Don't do it around them. Do you know someone who doesn't like violent things? Don't talk about the movie you've seen. Do you know someone who likes fashion? Make mention you like their outfit. This will leave them a great impression of you. If you do this enough, they are going to like you regardless of your differences. And the more people like you, the more agreeable they will be to your ideas.
Body Language To Influence:
*When sitting, stretch your arms wide open lean back on your seat raise your feet upon your desk. This postures will make you feel in charge and in control. Because it stimulates the production of testosterone.
*Participation and discussion makes persuasion easier. You bond with other person. To influence, pay total attention to the person you're talking to. Don't do anything else like checking your phone. Devote your full attention to the person and listen. Make eye contact. And tilt your head towards the person.
*Smile when you want to connect with other person. Smile is a non verbal cue for friendliness and trust. This is why when you smile with someone, they instinctively smiles back at you. A smile stimulates good feelings and trust.
*Mirroring- you've probably heard the phrase "Imitation is the greatest form of flattery" You tend to imitate the person you like or admire. In body language, when you mirror the stance very subtly the person in front of you. You're basically saying "I agree with you"
*To come across with an authority, lower your voice. You'll observe in the movies that the villain sounds scarier when they talk in lower tones than in higher tones. This is because a lower tone, projects authority. Lowering your voice and pitch when talking over the phone will surely make a difference. A lower speech spells authority. Most people will stop and listen.
*Diffuse arguments by realigning your body,
You can diffuse an argument by showing empathy or agreement towards the person arguing with you. Just align your body to the person by placing yours next to him and slightly tilting your head.
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