Not all relationships are made for pure love. Some of them are created for financial purposes. What is the point of a relationship of convenience, it has its advantages and disadvantages. Everyone has the opportunity and the right to choose which relationships are to their liking.
Before entering into a relationship, it's important to think about what drives you: mercantilism or love. The meaning of calculation is invested not only money, but also reliability (many women are looking for a man to be behind him as a wall, but feelings in such a case are superficial). Settlement is also a simple desire to start a family. But, any relationship based on calculation or on love should begin at least with respect for your loved one.
Every relationship can be called a wheel of fortune, because you never know what will happen in the future. All of us are human and over time, one half may become annoying or suddenly it turns out that you do not suit each other. Even such a serious step as a relationship of convenience may not bring what you expected.
What's good and bad about a relationship of convenience?
In a relationship that comes from great love, it's easier to get along together, because flaws are more readily accepted. Speaking of such shortcomings, we do not mean that the partner will turn out to be deceitful and unfaithful, such a development, for sure, will not be tolerated with a smile on his face.
If we compare love and calculation, in the second case we can observe the sobriety of mind, the ally is evaluated without excessive emotionality, objectively. And when we fall in love we sometimes do not see the true "I" of the person, our infatuation and the veil effect on our eyes hide and soften all the flaws.
A curious fact is that a woman who is not in love makes a conscious choice in favor of a person less sympathetic to her. Thus, she makes the calculation that he is a better father and spouse.
It can also be said that life with not any man is difficult. After a while, he can get on her nerves, and the calculation of that connection, by and large, may not live up to all expectations. Or justify, but not give you that satisfaction. We often hear the phrase "living in a golden cage," that's just it, when everything seems to work out, but the effect makes you think even more. Affluent, surrounded by care women can get depressed, because they do not feel anything for her husband.
The importance of reciprocity in a relationship is undeniable. But relationships of convenience were, are, and probably will be, such is our human factor, the thirst for easy life. But in love it is important not to let common sense fall before emotions and feelings.
Lack of feelings does not trigger quarrels about the lack of attention and jealousy. The calculation is a consciousness, but such a relationship should benefit both in a couple. Everyone has their own motive for this particular choice and their own ways to achieve it. It is silly to criticize such a relationship, everyone chooses what he likes - feelings or benefits.
Why do people choose a relationship of convenience?
Happy marriages of convenience, many people just don't believe it, because how can you live without love?
But a relationship without the storms of passion and love experiences has a lot of chances to be happy. Why is this type of relationship still popular?
Basic Intent:
Giving up illusions of light love can create a strong union against all odds and perpetually failing relationships.
In a relationship of convenience, too, there can be a sense of strong love, and in a relationship of love, romance can become a formality.
Sex doesn't suffer either, no matter why you chose this particular partner, intimacy can be fixed and exercised to perfection.
Some may marry for fun - not making plans for a life together, but just to help, for example, with registration. But even such a game can turn into a solid marriage. Official statistics of such cases, of course, no one led, but psychologists say that successful relationships can be more than just for love.
In spite of the lack of feelings.
Marriages and relations of convenience are created not only on the basis of economic considerations. Despite the lack of feelings of love, in spite of life situations and failures in personal life, people make a calculation. The situation is simple: years go by, love failures grow, and the fairytale prince or charming lady, as if sworn not to go to meet us.
In such situations, we consider it best to be a minimum resemblance to a ghostly ideal. We go into a relationship with someone with whom it will just be comfortable and relaxed about interest and say nothing of interest. Thinking that someone can deliver a sense of comfort is more than enough for some to replace romance with this, such an alliance can be called on friendship.
The presence of someone around is comforting.
The basic provisions for a relationship of convenience are different for everyone. Insecurity - difficulty in communicating with other people, can push the calculation that someone else will solve all the problems of interconnection in society. Desire for a change of scenery - need to move to another city and no opportunity, the calculation that someone else will definitely do it.
Relationships of convenience attract people who have experienced the separation of their parents or who grew up in a family where the relationship between children and parents was deprived of warmth. Children suffer psychologically from such an attitude, which leads to a complete shutdown of feelings. From here on, they will simply survive by calculating moves in relationships with others.
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