I have always had a dark side that scared me because it did not fit into societal norms. It took me years to realise that I need to embrace my good and bad. We are not meant to be put inside a box and labelled!
My search started by registering on different sites and visiting clubs that has always peaked my interest and I was to ashamed to research.
In my experience I have found there are fakers and then the overconfident dominates that want you to read there rules. As a woman I felt abit confused as I have a busy life and I want an easy going connection. I'm not paying for a course to be weak and be someone's puppet. But also each to there own. Being vulnerable infront of someone is hard and opening yourself up to being someone else's domination is on another level. As woman we have evolved from being dominated for centuries. I want to be vulnerable but only to someone that can handle my vulnerability.
Most of us have read the book or watched the movie, 50 shades of grey or 365 days. Which I must say was hot, being manhandled never looked so good.
In real life tho it's not the same, some dominates treat woman like they a notch on there bedpost. Posting there dominance on sites or brag rites of their conquests.
Now the main question is to Dom or not to Dom. To live out your fantasies and become part of this lifestyle. Are we mentally strong enough to deal with what comes with domination.
What are the effects mentally if your dominate does not look after you mental health but degrades you physically? Where is the line of pleasure and pain? Is this just a kink or are you in a bad mental space and feel that being dominated will make you feel alive?
Before we go into kinks, you need to mentally be prepared for liars, fakes and people that just want to get into your pants.
When you do create a profile be strong in what you want and never settle for less. Be picky and be honest because you can get lost in the kink lifestyle!
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