The working mom vs not working mom debate has been around since time began.
Moms have increasingly chosen to take part in the labour force outside of the home while simultaneously raising their children. Many families today require two incomes to live comfortably, making stay at home parenting an impossibility for many.
Pros of Being a Working Mom
▪︎ You are a great mom
▪︎ You earn your own money
▪︎Teach your children the importance of working
▪︎Maintain your own sense of identity through your achievements at work
▪︎You get to have an adult conversation
▪︎Value quality time you spend with your children
▪︎Your child is having fun & building relationships with others
▪︎You get to go to the toilet in peace a few times a day.
▪︎You get to drink your coffee whilst it’s still hot a few times a day.
Cons of Being a Working Mom
▪︎You miss your children – a lot
▪︎Tiredness from rushing around and getting everyone where they need to be
▪︎Feeling like you have two jobs
▪︎Mom guilt when you miss out on parents’ evenings, plays, and other school events.
Pros of Being a non working mom
▪︎You are a great mum
▪︎You’re getting to spend a lot of time with your child
▪︎You don’t have to split your time between two things.
▪︎You get to see all the firsts
▪︎No expensive child care
Cons of Being a non working mom
▪︎Lack Of Adult Conversation
▪︎It can be lonely when your children are young
▪︎Can cause lack of identity
▪︎Can cause financial strain
▪︎Your children can lack socialisation with other children
The Verdict
When comparing being a working mom vs. Not working mom, you may find that one is not better than the other. Both offer advantages and disadvantages, so pick the option that works best for you and your family.
The Dream
Moms would all support each other, whichever option they choose. Being a mom is a hard job and none of us want or need to feel judged for the decision we make about children.
The Reality
Moms do feel judged for the decisions we make. Those who stay at home are ‘sponging off the state’ and ‘lazy”.
The moms who work are ‘more interested in money’ ‘don’t care about their child’ or ‘aren’t naturally maternal, anyway’.
We all suffer enough ‘mom guilt’ of our own without others adding more doubt and feelings of guilt upon you.
For Those Moms Who Work Full Time – I’d Like You To Know:
▪︎Just because you work it doesn’t mean you’re not maternal
▪︎Because you work, it doesn’t mean you don’t love your child
▪︎Just because you leave them, it doesn’t mean they’ll stop loving you or forget you – you’ll always be their mom.
Don’t be so hard on yourselves, this being a mommy job is tough.
There is no right or wrong answer, only what’s best for you and your family.
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